Do you ever think of, it's not easy to meet someone special in this big wide world? Some comes from different countries, some meet in the same motherland.
I always think that love make amazing job to make two become one. Love make everything possible even for two diff culture people together. Some, parents objection cos of they diff culture but they still stand strong firmly onto their love and uphold their love till the end.
I have seen many couples get together and many separated. But, mostly, of those who ended up separated are those people who think they r not suitable for each other or they can't accept their living style or characteristic. I'm talking about majority couples even for those who r not married.
Some people suicide cos of their partner chose to leave them. If you have ever choose death to end ur sadness, then u r really a silly ass. I'm honestly telling u that I ever suicide cos of a man whom I'm deeply in love with. Hences, I'm glad I escaped from the father of death, cos after I wokeup then next morning, I look throughout the window and realized how beautiful this world is and how much love I gotten from people who truly loves me. People like my mum, my besties, my workmates, actually all of them cares about me. Seriously, at tat point of time, I pray and said thank God u didnt take my life. Lifes is up and down... No matter how bad the situation is, u should stand up and Learnt. Look bad at the things I did from the past make me laugh at myself. And looking at myself now, makes me think that I've grown up.
No big deal for a man to leave me. Life is full of passerby... Smooth n rocky. When I was a teenager, I truly had tons of bf haha no joke! I'm not as pretty as Britney spear nor Leighton meester nor Blake lively, I do wonders the men eyes are blind. My story here is not to brag I had alot of ex bf but is to tell u that, if I had hundreds of bf in the past, does that mean I should be dead hundreds times now???
Hey, love hurts. It does hurt alot when they leave, but think about it, why do u wan to take ur life for someone whom don't love u that much or someone will not die for you?? Doesn't that not worth?? A pregnant mummy carried the child in the tummy for 10 months which is about 300 days? How tough and heavy to walk, sleep, even lying down on bed how much uncomfortable gone through?? How much responsible they need to carried while u r in them? In ordered to protect u safely to prevent miscarriage? To prevent u got hurt? And how much pain they going thru while giving birth? I never thought of this until I experienced it myself and realized I've been such a silly n brainless girl.
How much hurt and heart pain will I bring to a mum whom carried me for about 300 days in the tummy if I would kill myself cos of a stupid man whom doesn't love or protect me like my mum did? Nothing and no other love could compare to a motherly love. Or maybe at this moment, u had fights with ur mum, u hate her for being irritating, busybody cos she keep tailing u, checking on u, making effort to know who r ur frds, ask u to leave bad frds around u, I been thru this guys. I totally understand how u feel. Mummy wants to rule their children life is nature, children rejection to mummy is nature of children. Cos no matter how old r u, married or single, being a parents already or not, u r forever an apple in ur parents heart. No parents would want to see their children get hurts and heart break. Again, I experienced myself and realized why so much nagging from my mummy when I was teenager. They care they ask, they concern they scold, they love they nag.... Beating up a teenager no longer works in decades, and that when the nagging comes in. Because they love and care so much more than anyone else.
Everyone does have broken relationships, un-heal heart. But think about what I had said. Some people still be able to found their love when they were in 40s, 50s. Such older age to have a new love it's not less seeing in this century.
Tonight, I have a heart felt thoughts about relationships and that's y it lead me to here to share. Well, I'm not a love expert but I often listen and give my best valuable and honest opinion to my friends.
I did something which I'm not sure if it the right thing to do that. Recently, I pulled a ex couple back to be together, they have not back yet and this is only the story should start. I'm sure u have alot of question to ask what happened. How they broke off? how they start? What I did? Blah blah blah......
To be short, they first met each other thru friends, same story with every love stories, love slowly build up thru dating, phone calls, hanging out often, sharing same interest.... until a year or so, things changed. The truth for both was both still love each other but 'honeymoon' period is gone, they start to point out each other bad points, habits and so on... Slowly, often quarrels, lack of communications, misunderstanding starts, suspecting third party starts, noone wanna make clear, when it's going to start to settle the problems both start to quarrel as well. This may look familiar to anyone of us in our love life. Be it or not, that's love cycle.
For Few months, both still went out as a friend, sometimes thinking about each other, the past, the happy moments.... But sad to say is, ego kills everyone. Noone wanna start the ball to talk heart to heart. Oftens woman think, man should start cos they r man they should be gentleman, if they want they should show the sincere and talk first, while man would think what if I'm being rejected and all my mans ego will be destroy for a woman that I broke off with. Girls, man are human being they r not god and know what r u thinking about, even hunks, handsome or ugly they have feelings too, they will tend to also have the kind of feeling insecure.
Some man had bad experience in the past that turned them into so called 'cold blooded'. They will also have times whereby feeling insecure to commit themselves into serious relationship, I'm talking about those who really want serious relationship not those whom only have flirting mind or playing heart. Of course! Not all man are the same, there are some chicks out there who fool around n break mans heart too.
Every serious relationship should think twice before they commit, woman would feel the same way as man of being fooled. Well, heart to heart talks usually works well for a relationship. I always believe that if u treat someone truly, the person will have no doubts in you and if u r true enough to tell everything and be honest, people will treat u the same way. Here I'm talking too far from the topic that I wanna share but last, what comes around, goes around.
Back to my frds, I've been trying hard to find out whats their mind and how they feel about each other. The outcome was, attitude problem. Not honest enough, seems hiding something.
Girl, man always think that the best to avoid fights is not to tell the truth, like if they r gg out to club with a group of guy friends, the most often fights comes from man don't seems to say out too details, they r might be afraid of their gf ask n ask n ask like asking with who? Go where? Got meet any new girls? Is there any girl going? Any girl talked to u? Did u see a desire girl? Did u give some girl ur number? That is why man usually don't say much about their stuff to avoid unnecessary fights with their gf.
If u r a man reading my blog, I wanna tell u this, never hide or never try to be not honest to tell where u go, what u did. Woman's thinking is always that they rather to know the truth than u hide or lie. The moment they found out, situation might get to the worst. Always be honest.
Even during fights, man tend to keep quiet and seems doesn't wants to say or doesn't wan to clarify it's bcos they didnt wan to say more to prevent anymore fights or they wan to stop the quarrel. But man, woman wants to listen, they want to know what u r thinking, what are your thoughts, and that is why they keep asking, and they wants to know where is the problem and settle it. Most man r rather 'not to face' than 'long winded story'. Man oftens hide their feelings more than woman.
I always has a quote; Woman are trouble makers while the man are trouble seekers.
But, I have to admit, some woman are real trouble makers for being too sensitive.
Trust is the main key in a relationship. Without it, I'm sure you couldn't survive in ur relationships. If you don't trust, u r just making ur life harder. If u trust the wrong one, then learn from it. Always look at yourself how honest r u than u see ur partners. Everyone has already 'that person' that u will spend ur lifetime with. Why so hurry? It's all fated. Of course!! Even you have full of trust in them, at times we will still need to stalk (spot check) once awhile at least, to show that u care. Cos some people will think u don't care, they r not important in ur life. Well, overall, we r human beings with flesh and feelings. Noone loves to get hurt, everyone is selfish towards the man or woman of their life.
Alright, I would wants to stop here, good luck to everyone. Please don't ever think of suicide cause of any 'fish monger' that don't treasure. Always believe, there's someone in this world is the right one for u and is the special tailor made one for u.
Good luck!
If you have any doubts or wants to share your problems, feel free to comment it or if u do not wan others to know, u could email me anytime and I will try my very best to answer every single one.
I'm a libra, a good listener.
Signing off with love for everyone.
